Good on you Maria Kang!

I have been posting a lot about my journey with Operation Nutrition the past 2 weeks, so I thought it best put up a post of a different nature. And I also have a bit of a gripe…so here it comes.

There has been a photo circulating the web lately of a super-hot mum and her 3 young kids. The pic shows her posing with her kids wearing a crop top and micro shorts and the words on the pic are ‘What’s your excuse?’

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Now my issue isn’t with this pic. My issue is with the 1000’s of women out there who saw it and hated on her. She has had to defend herself for posting this photo!

The way I see it, this lady had a goal. Her goal was to look this good and she achieved her goal while still being a mum to 3 young kids. Well done to her! Anyone who sets out to achieve a goal should be praised when they get there. Not accused of ‘fat shaming’ others.

Now I’m all for positive body image and feeling happy and beautiful in your own skin. But the reality is, whether we admit it out loud or not, we all have insecurities and we all want to look and feel better. That is human nature and whether you are a size 6 or 16, you will most likely dislike some part of your body and wish you could change it. And there is nothing wrong with that! I’m learning to appreciate my body and who I am, but I still want to look better, and more than that, I want to feel better and be fitter, healthier. This is a good thing right? Well if you ask a number of media outlets, body image specialists etc this isn’t the case. I should just be content at being a size 12 (or larger) and shout it out to the world. Who needs to lose weight? Who needs to be healthy? Don’t dare try to achieve your own personal goals and be proud of it. When you look that hot you are obviously a fat shamer! WTF???

What’s happening to the world? It takes a lot of hard work and dedication to look like this woman does. And people should not be putting her down for looking how SHE WANTS TO LOOK! I sincerely doubt she posted this photo to offend others. If anything, this is inspirational for all the other mothers out there struggling to find the motivation they need to achieve their goals.

It appears we as a society have gone from hating on larger people, to hating on super thin people, now we hate on fitness type bodies. Can’t we just appreciate everyone as they are?

And the other thing that’s important with this photo is that she’s simply pointing out a very true fact. There are NO excuses. If you WANT something (want being the key word here) then you can have it. You just gotta be prepared to work hard for it!

“You can have results or you can have your excuses. You cannot have both.” – Unknown

I like porn!

I read an article on Mama Mia the other day written by Ms Naughty.

She’s makes feminist porn.

I opened the article because, 1. I was curious as to what feminist porn was, and 2. I find the sex industry pretty interesting. Also, that very night I was off to Sexpo Brisbane to chat to some real life porn stars and strippers.

So… Ms Naughty is an Aussie librarian turned pornographer! And she is leading the way for feminist porn down under (pardon the pun). What makes her porn films feminist is the perspective in which she shoots them; as a woman, wanting what a woman wants. The content is all about female pleasure!

Go Ms Naughty!!!

From this article and from scouring the web, I discovered feminist porn is big business (hallelujah) and it seems to me that those women brave enough to take on the world of exotic films love what they do!

Petra Joy is another lady doing it for the ladies. Petra has been financing, producing and directing feminist porn since 2004 and loving every minute of it!

This really got me thinking about porn, the sex industry and the stigmas attached to it.

A lot of mainstream porn is, as Petra points out, geared towards male pleasure. So why can’t us girls enjoy a bit of sex on the big screen? Why aren’t women more open about their enjoyment of porn? Let’s face it; most of us are at least curious about it if not totally engrossed by the idea of watching it.

I think the problem is that we are either too embarrassed to admit that we like it, be it mainstream or feminist style (get it, feminist style…anyways), and the stigmas attached to the sex industry are just too widespread for us to stand up and shout from the rooftops about our desire for some onscreen lovin’.

I, personally, would like to see this change! Bring on the cunnilingus!!

So, here’s to Ms Naughty, to Petra and their porn! (check out

BTW check out these interviews with the lovely ladies of Sexpo Australia, Miss Phoenix Marie (super amazing porn star!!!) and Aussie hardcore porn pro Angela White! Also, sexy stripper Trinity Porter. Seems to me these ladies love what they do and do it pretty well!

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Trolls be gone!

I hate trolls.

Not the ugly ones that hide under bridges waiting for damsels in distress to pass – those ones are ok. I hate the trolls that scour the internet with nothing better to do than post nasty, degrading, derogative, stupid posts on social media sites, websites and so on.

These trolls are the really ugly ones.

For those who are not aware, an internet trolls is someone who posts abusive and hurtful comments, incites arguments and provokes anger by making controversial comments, narcissistically dominates conversations making themselves the centre of attention. And they do this with the intention of upsetting and causing emotional stress and or harm to others – mostly people they don’t know.


I myself have not been trolled (touch wood), but boy does it ark me up when I see others being subject to this abuse. And that’s what it is…abuse!

Unfortunately, internet trolls are very common. They can be found just about anywhere. Even on memorial pages for people who have been taken from this world. The argument could be that perhaps social media sites are not the place for memorial sites, but in this day and age, social media plays a MASSIVE part in how we communicate. And it’s not just our ‘in person’ friends who want to pay tribute.

Either way, trolls have become a very modern menace.

These people can use the World Wide Web to hide behind alter egos, to exert a sense of power and act out their own feelings of anger and insecurity, deliberately making others feel bad to help themselves feel better. All the while knowing their true identity is cloaked by an infinite online world and they will never have to face their victims directly.

Last year we saw firsthand the effects trolling can have on someone. Charlotte Dawson, a well-known public figure, who you would think is used to scrutiny, was driven to attempt suicide by her online tormentors!

‘Can you kill yourself already?’ was the vile online messages from internet trolls that led a 16 year old American girl Jessica Laney to hang herself in 2012.

This is incredible!!

Both of these cases, plus countless others, have attracted considerable media attention and triggered public debate about how to respond to the issue of trolling. But how do you contain something you can’t really keep up with?

My opinion, start small! It all just has to start with us. Each individual person needs to do their part to stop the trolls. Then hopefully one day, they will be eradicated…


Gen Y? Because we are not that bad… that’s Y!

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It is a common perception that Gen-Yers are selfish, lazy and hard to get along with. Gen-Yers are said to have no interest in hard work and are typically a “me” generation interested only in themselves and what they want. Elements of this statement are definitely true and, of course, there are always bad eggs. But Gen Y is also a smart breed and, if you get them onside, a loyal breed.
Being a member of this generation myself, I feel now is a good time to come clean about how we work and what makes us work better. I put in the hard yards, worked for free for many years with many companies and now I am a 25 (almost 26!) year-old Editor at a great little publishing company called Inflight Publishing, and testament to the fact that we Gen-Yers do have it in us to succeed.
The truth is Gen-Yers are both high-performance and high-maintenance. With high expectations of both themselves and of their employers, the Gen Y employee will work hard and fast if they feel they are getting the respect and recognition they deserve. A simple “well done” is often enough; we are not really that hard to please!
Gen-Yers crave creative challenges and will actively seek to be engaged in everything they can be, so as an employer of this generation, use this to your advantage and become a valuable resource to your eager employees.
I think it is fair to say that not all Gen-Yers possess these “go get ‘em” traits, but if you treat your staff well no matter the age, you will reap the rewards.
Gen-Yers don’t want to work long and hard; they want to work smart, so you can be sure they will work quickly.
Gen-Yers want to be in charge, they want to be successful and take it to the top as soon as they can. This means Gen-Yers will work to impress you if you give them the chance. Allow your younger employees take on more responsibility and even management roles because the truth is seniority does not make a good manager. People skills make a good manager, and Gen-Yers understand what they want from the person in charge.
Gen Y is obsessed with career development. They understand the importance of great mentors and will often actively seek them out. The trouble is that many older workers have no interest in mentoring younger employees because of the stigma attached with the Gen Y “attitude problem”.
Gen-Yers can also be useful as mentors themselves. We know technology, we know about social media and, believe it or not, because of Facebook we are up to date with what’s going on in the world. Gen-Yers can teach older co-workers about new technologies and the supremacy of online communities.
Don’t be afraid to hire younger employees. Yes, Gen Y can be a little self-obsessed and egotistical. We are a spirited bunch and we get excited about new things, so use this to help teach us how to work well in your company because born from Gen Y will be our country’s newest leaders, billionaires and entrepreneurs!

Peace out!


Why cant we all wear a smile?

I was trying to fly without leaving the ground,
Cause I wanted to be like Mike, right
Wanted to be him, I wanted to be that guy, I wanted to touch the rim
I wanted to be cool, and I wanted to fit in,
I wanted what he had, America, it begins

The lyrics in this song, Wings by Macklemore, got me thinking the other day as I drove to work in my designer jacket and shoes. It got me thinking about consumerism, identity, individuality and I guess it led to me asking myself some big questions about what it means to fit in, to stand out. As Macklemore puts it “I’m an individual, yea, but I’m part of a movement”. It couldn’t be truer.

We are all individuals. We are all made up of different stuff. But, we are also all part of some movement. There is not one person out there who could honestly say they were not influenced by something, someone. Even the so called “hipsters” are influenced by other hipsters and that has become a movement. Not a symbol of individuality. I remember when this happened with the punk movement. Everyone started dressing in black, wearing thicker eyeliner and listening to punk rock calling themselves individuals. But when thousands of others are doing the exact same thing, it’s not really individuality. This leads me to the next point. Why do people see what they wear as the thing that defines them and who they are? Why can’t someone who likes wearing pink floral dresses be a ‘punk rocker’? What does what you wear have to do with who you are anyway?

We want what we can’t have, commodity makes us want it
So expensive, damn, I just got to flaunt it
Got to show ’em, so exclusive, this that new shit
A hundred dollars for a pair of shoes I would never hoop in
Look at me, look at me, I’m a cool kid

I’m an individual, yea, but I’m part of a movement
My movement told me be a consumer and I consumed it
They told me to just do it, I listened to what that swoosh said

We are consumers. We consume all the time. We are all influenced by adverts, people we look up to, celebrities we like, what our friends and family are doing. And that’s fine. I’m the first to admit I love to shop. New clothes, shoes, things… I enjoy buying them. I’m influenced by many things. And that’s just fine. But at times I forget that I can be me no matter what I’m wearing, or who I’m wearing. My insides, my personality, my way of thinking is not going to change depending on weather I’m wearing a designer jacket or a piece from Kmart. But it’s easy to forget that these days. It’s easy to believe that if we don’t wear what society tells us is ‘cool’ we won’t fit in. We won’t be looked at with admiration and respect. I look forward to seeing the day when people go around wearing a smile. When that is the movement we all follow.

That’s my air bubble and I’m lost, if it pops
We are what we wear, we wear what we are
But see I look inside the mirror and think Phil Knight tricked us all
Will I stand for change, or stay in my box
These Nikes help me define me, but I’m trying to take mine, off


What does superwoman have in common with a mum?

I thought I might kick off this blogging venture with a post on motherhood.

While I am not a mother myself, well not in the traditional sense, I do have a 40kg fur baby called Sookie of the Rhodesian Ridgeback variety, but not a regular human child.

But my sister does. In fact, as of May 28 this year she has two!

That’s right, my niece Rhylee was born just a few days ago, a perfect little 7pd bundle of cuddly joy. And it has happened to me again…. The cluckiness has set in.

The first time it happened was 2 years, 3 months and 21 days ago when my first niece Dakotah was born. I felt it creeping up on me the way a sore throat does. First it’s just an itch, then a slight throb and before you know it, crash, bang, pow I wanted a bloody baby!

I was never one of those girls who was hell bent on having a family. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t against it either but it just hadn’t really crossed my mind. When my first niece was born I was only 24, I was a big traveller, and a pretty ambitious young lady wanting to rise to the top of the corporate ladder and stay there.

But the moment I met that little girl, I was in love! Suddenly, the idea of starting a family was more appealing then moving to the big smoke and pursuing a high profile media career. Suddenly, my body seemed to be yearning for a baby of my own. Looking into her little blue eyes, playing with her curly red hair, hearing her give me a nickname, Lala, and that gummy smile sucked me right in. I now know what they mean when they say you “just know” when you’re ready to have a child.

And while the immediate urge to stop everything and start making babies did subside, my attitude towards motherhood didn’t. In fact, I feel quite empowered by the idea now. And I’m learning that motherhood is not a sacrifice, only the strongest survive in that role.

Motherhood is not about giving up the life you have, it’s about adapting to a new and exciting life. It’s about change, but not the scary, bad kind I always associated with it, it’s about growth and new challenges.

And I want to be one of those women. I want to thrive as a mother, a career woman, a wife. And the more I think about it, the more I realise it’s totally possible to have my cake and eat it too.

I want to be superwoman.

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